Who should pay for a date? Gen Z men upholding traditional dating rule

Tradition is on the menu during Gen Z date night, with some men even admitting to getting “angry” when one classic dating rule isn’t followed.

Despite being seen as politically progressive when it comes to gender equality, it seems young men are still expected to pick up the tab for the women they’re wooing — and they’re more than happy to do so, the New York Post reports.

A survey of 552 heterosexual college students cited in a new report by The New York Times found that Zoomer men paid for dates 90 per cent of the time.

Gen Z women, on the other hand, paid in full for just 2 per cent of the dates they went on, while 8 per cent of dates were split evenly between the sexes.

“The traditional pattern is still there,” professor Shanhong Luo, who conducted the research, told the publication.

The Times cited one 27-year-old woman who claimed that gender equality wasn’t a reason to expect women to split the bill.

“Gender equality didn’t mean men and women should pay the same when they [go] out,” the unidentified woman purportedly said, saying that females “earn less than men in the workplace, spend more time getting ready for outings, and pay more for reproductive care.”

While many Gen Z women are reluctant to pay for a date, it seems most young men are happy to cover the costs completely.

Scott Bowen, 24, told the publication he “always paid for drinks, meals and coffees on dates,” with the tab usually coming in somewhere between $70 and $100 a pop.

For men who are actively trying to find a partner, dating doesn’t come cheap — but some men are offended or “angry” when a woman gets out her purse and offers to cover her share.

“On the first date, I always establish beforehand that I want to pay,” Kent Barnhill, a 27-year-old data analyst and self-described “feminist” from Washington, D.C., said.

“The fact I’m paying more does not bother me.”

Mr Barnhill said he was “furious” when his current girlfriend wanted to split the bill on their first date.

Now, however, after dating her for some time, Mr Barnhill is happier to divvy up costs when they go out for drinks or dinner.

But he is far from the only fella furious when a woman wants to whip out her bank card.

“A couple of guys get a little stiff when I offer to pay,” Kala Lundahl, 24, told The Times.

“You can tell they’re not comfortable with that idea.”

This article originally appearred on the New York Post and has been republished with permission.

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