Bride slammed for charging guests $65 to attend her wedding

A bride-to-be has been labelled “cheap and tacky” for charging family and friends $65 to attend her wedding.

Her “embarrassing” request was revealed by one of her guests in a thread on Reddit, who took to the platform to question whether it was acceptable conduct.

“One of my closest friends is getting married and is charging her guests to attend the wedding. I always knew she was cheap, so in one way I’m not surprised,” the guest began.

“But this is really not the norm in the country I live in, although it seems like 90s kids like me have to started to charge for their weddings more and more which is just embarrassing.”

The user said invited guests were offered three options to RSVP to: “I will attend the wedding (envelope fee: 65 dollars)”, “I will only attend the ceremony”, or “I will not be able to attend”.

“It doesn’t even say that the fee is but after googling it says it includes, food, music, decorations and venue. So they literally want their guests to pay for decorations,” they added.

The bride and groom also expected guests to cough up if they chose to attend a dinner on the eve of the wedding, or stay at the venue – requests the guest said “are more OK since nobody is forcing you to attend that dinner and/or sleep over”.

“But if I’m INVITED to a wedding I shouldn’t have to pay to attend the actual wedding?!” they wrote.

“On top of that, they have a page where you can choose to contribute with money towards a gift. You have different options like cooking class, dance class, a trip, etc. It says ‘gifts are not needed but welcome’. But WHO would pay for a gift after they have to pay to attend the wedding? Since it’s a norm to give a gift I think many people are gonna feel forced to give one anyway.”

They concluded that if a guest were to attend “every single thing”, stay at the venue and “contribute with money to a gift, it would cost a guest AT LEAST 300 dollars”.

“The thing is, I KNOW they have money. My friend inherited a lot of money from her grandma in advance, they have a house, her fiance is an engineer, they have a boat, and they are currently renovating their house,” they said.

“I also suspect that they actually can afford both the renovation and the wedding, but they are probably just trying to play it smart and make the guests contribute because as I said, I’ve always known she’s cheap.

“And I’m also questioning if their gift solution will actually go to said gift, or if it’s just another contribution to more renovations of their house. She has also told me that her goal is to be rich.

“It’s just unfortunate because we’ve been friends for 12 years and it’s sad to only be able to attend the ceremony because I absolutely refuse to pay.”

Other Reddit users were quick to agree that the bride was in the wrong, questioning: “How can you be so cheap and tacky?”

“That is not fair,” another wrote. “No one should have to pay a dime. A guest is a guest and does NOT pay.”

“Paying to stay at the venue is fine. That’s optional. My venue charged me based on how many people stayed so I gave my guests that option,” one former bride said.

“But paying for your meal and the ambience is nuts. I would decline immediately and without sending a gift.”

“I would send my regrets and my congratulations and that’s it. The bride is out of her freaking mind,” someone else wrote.

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